Survey: American Couples Having Troubles in Bed

American couples reported they’re having trouble getting along in the bedroom. In fact, one in four said they sleep better alone than with their partner. But that’s not all they said.

A survey conducted in September 2012 showed couples are having issues in the bedroom that are drastically affecting their sleep. And who better to address the problem than the Better Sleep Council?

Check out the details of the survey below and find out more about the solution to America’s sleeplessness by visiting If you like what you see, make sure to check out the Better Sleep Council’s May 2012 survey that found Americans crave sleep more than sex and visit the organization’s consumer outreach project at

Survey Details:
Conducted in September 2012 with a statistically representative sample of U.S. adults (18+) in a committed relationship; a sample size of 542 yields a confidence interval of 95 percent +/- 4.2 percent.

One-quarter of American adults in a relationship sleep better alone than with a partner
  • 26 percent of respondents reported sleeping better alone

63 percent of couples sleep most of the night separated
  • 20 percent, or one in five, claim to “cling to their respective corners”
  • 9 percent, or almost one in ten, say they sleep in separate bedrooms
  • Almost 2 in 10 Americans say their dream home has separate master bedrooms

Women are more sensitive to their sleep environment than men
  • 20% of men claim not to have any problems sleeping vs. 12% of women
  • Spouse or partner tossing/turning and snoring keep women up at night more than men
    • 44% of women claim that tossing and turning keeps them up at night vs. 34% of men
    • 42% of women claim that snoring keeps them up at night vs. 20% of men
  • Women are more sensitive to their sleep environment than men
    • 60% of women say that their sleep environment keeps them awake more than their sleep partner (only 48% of men make this claim)

Young adults are also more sensitive to their sleep environment than their older cohorts
  • 66% of 18- to 34-year-olds claim to have issues sleeping
  • 53% of 35- to 54-year-olds claim to have issues sleeping
  • 49% of adults 55 and older claim to have issues sleeping

The older we get, the more distant we are in bed
  • 55-year-olds and older are the least likely to cuddle close and spoon (7% vs. 19% of 18- to 34-year-olds, and 15% of 35- to 54-year-olds)
  • 55-year-olds and older are more likely to sleep in separate bedrooms (16% vs. 3% of 18- to 34-year-olds and 7% of 35- to 54-year-olds)

A majority of American adults (85%) state they have problems sleeping at night
  • People are bothered primarily by:
    • Temperature in the room (43%)
    • Spouse/partner tossing and turning (40%)
    • Snoring (32%)
  • Other leading factors:
    • Mattress quality, age and/or firmness (28%)
    • Mattress size (10%)

We asked nearly 550 American adults in a relationship to tell us the craziest things they've done to get around sleep issues with their partners. We'll let the responses speak for themselves.
  • Ask him to sleep in the living room to get me comfortable
  • I just try to remember there will come a day when I might not hear that snoring.
  • I have perfected defensive sleeping. I cling to my side, waking up to rearrange my husband, so he won't punch or kick me during the night. I use my feet to keep track of where he is. I also kick back.
  • Have a multitude of pillows that I can almost hide in to sleep.
  • I only sleep in the bed with my partner for our alone time together and then I get up and go sleep in a recliner.
  • When snoring becomes a problem I ask him to sleep in our spare room!
  • Wear ear plugs
  • Wear ear muffs
  • I've changed my sleeping schedule.
  • We take naps at different times of the day ALONE. That helps later that night. AND yes, we are retired (thank goodness).
  • I wear pajamas and a sweat shirt and use an afghan over our light blanket to keep me warm. My husband sleeps nude and likes only the light blanket. Now I'm warm enough, and I sleep very well.
  • I'm fine with the cool temps as long as I bundle up. Now we both sleep very well, right next to each other, always touching in some way.
  • If he starts the snoring routine, he is sent to the sofa.
  • King size comforter on a queen size bed
  • Make more whoppee!
  • Sleeping head to foot
  • Twin beds!!!!!!!
  • We each use our own blankets.
  • We usually put a pillow or blanket between us so he doesn't roll over on me.
  • I make him wear socks to bed so he doesn't scratch me with his toenails.
  • When feeling restless, I throw a blanket on the floor, and lie there till I get sleepy again.